It might be subtle - little comments that feel like digs. Decisions that get run past her before you.
Unspoken rules about who gets a say. Or it might be loud—arguments, tears, and tension that ripple through holidays and family events.
You’ve tried keeping the peace, speaking up, pulling back. And yet… here you are. Feeling like you’re cast as the problem no matter how you show up.
It’s about protecting what matters most - your marriage, your mental health, and the family you’re building.
This isn’t about choosing sides.
You’ve told yourself to “just let it go” more times than you can count.
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"As a psychotherapist, I’ve worked with countless women carrying the silent weight of in-law stress and feeling like they're the problem for struggling with it. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish brilliantly offers both a reframe and a road map. Her VAULT method is the missing language many couples need to finally get on the same team and protect what matters most: their relationship."
Psychotherapist, author of Boundary Boss and Too Much, & host of The Terri Cole Show
Terri Cole
This dynamic can quietly erode even the strongest relationships
In nearly 20 years as a couples therapist, I’ve seen this pattern play out behind closed doors again and again.
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"You, Your Husband, and His Mother, is the magical combination of relatable, illuminating, and legitimately helpful. An inspiring guide to the incredibly complex emotional terrain that women so often navigate between their relationship to their husband and the dynamics that exist with his mother"
Therapist and Author of "Securely Attached" and "Raising Securely Attached Kids
Eli Harwood MA LPC
You react—whether it’s shutting down, pushing back, or venting to your partner. Your partner feels caught in the middle… and you both end up fighting with each other instead of working together.
It’s exhausting. And if it’s not addressed, it can lead to resentment, disconnection, and a deep sense of being alone in your own marriage.
A mother-in-law says or does something hurtful.
You can rewrite the rules of this relationship without destroying it. You can stand alongside your partner as a united front, even if his mom never changes.
But here’s the good news - this doesn’t have to be your reality.
"Navigating in-law relationships is one of the most under-acknowledged yet emotionally loaded parts of partnership. With clarity, compassion, and the expertise of years in the therapy room, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish gives women the tools to stop feeling like they’re walking on eggshells and start building relationships that protect their peace—and their marriage."
Clinical Psychologist and NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent
Dr. Shefali Tsabary
It’s about giving you the tools, language, and confidence to change the way you navigate this dynamic - so it stops running your marriage in the background.
Introducing You, Your Husband & His Mother
This isn’t a book about “fixing” your mother-in-law.
Understand which mother-in-law dynamic they’re actually in (and why it feels so triggering)
Set boundaries that stick without creating more drama
Communicate with their spouse without it spiraling into a fight
Protect their energy so they can show up in their marriage feeling calm and clear-headed
It’s about giving you the tools, language, and confidence to change the way you navigate this dynamic—so it stops running your marriage in the background.
Inside, you’ll discover my VAULT method - a framework that’s helped countless women:
Inside, you’ll discover my VAULT method - a framework that’s helped countless women:
This is real-world relationship work.
It’s not about “just being the bigger person.” It’s about reclaiming your agency, your voice, and your place in your marriage.
"This is the book for you if you have ever felt like you have to choose between being a 'good daughter-in-law' and being true to yourself. Dr. Tracy offers a new paradigm to reimagine our roles. With real-life stories, practical guidance, and deep validation, this book helps us break free from societal expectations and assumptions that serve no one."
NYT bestselling author of Fair Play
Eve Rodsky
If you’re already feeling the strain, the best time to act is now—before resentment calcifies, before communication shuts down, before family gatherings become something you dread.
Your marriage is worth more than quietly enduring a dynamic that drains you. This book will help you step out of survival mode and into a way of relating that feels healthy - for you, your spouse, and your marriage.
You don’t have to wait for a breaking point.
"You, Your Husband, and His Mother delivers clear, easy-to-apply tools for a variety of mother-in-law dynamics, empowering couples to set healthy boundaries and foster harmony with confidence."
"The book every daughter-in-law needs."
Author of Toxic Positivity and host of the Calling Home podcast
Whitney Goodman, LMFT
"With her signature blend of relatable insight and research-backed guidance, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish tackles one of the most timeless and persistent challenges in early motherhood and marriage. She aims to reshape this dynamic for generations to come."
"Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies and grounded perspectives."
USA Today bestselling author of The Power Pause
Neha Ruch
"Some of the toughest conversations aren't only with your partner, but also with the people around them. Dr. Tracy shows you how to set boundaries without starting a war —and how to stay kind without getting steamrolled."
"Dr. Tracy gets it."
NYT bestselling author of The Next Conversation
Jefferson Fisher
"Some of the toughest conversations aren't only with your partner, but also with the people around them. Dr. Tracy shows you how to set boundaries without starting a war —and how to stay kind without getting steamrolled."
"Dr. Tracy gets it."
NYT bestselling author of The Next Conversation
Jefferson Fisher
"With her signature blend of relatable insight and research-backed guidance, Dr. Tracy Dalgleish tackles one of the most timeless and persistent challenges in early motherhood and marriage. She aims to reshape this dynamic for generations to come."
"Dr. Tracy offers practical strategies and grounded perspectives."
USA Today bestselling author of The Power Pause
Neha Ruch
"You, Your Husband, and His Mother delivers clear, easy-to-apply tools for a variety of mother-in-law dynamics, empowering couples to set healthy boundaries and foster harmony with confidence."
"The book every daughter-in-law needs."
Author of Toxic Positivity and host of the Calling Home podcast
Whitney Goodman, LMFT
Meet Dr. Tracy
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and the founder of Be Connected. With nearly twenty years of hands-on experience, she helps people untangle relationship patterns using her own life as a reference. She’s built this book to land where therapy meets humanity - in the messy middle of everyday connection.
Based in Ottawa, she leads a mental health clinic, speaks widely, and shares grounded insight with thousands daily through media and social platforms. Dr. Tracy brings you evidence-based expertise and lived experience, because connection isn’t academic, it’s deeply personal.
Psychologist, wife, mom… real person in real relationships
