Conversations that once ended in laughter now dissolve into tension.
Sometimes, after everything you’ve tried, romance feels more like a fading memory than a present possibility.
Shared dreams feel difficult to hold.
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"I Didn't Sign Up for This offers relatable stories of real-life couples. Whether you are newly in a relationship, married with children, or navigating a blended family, you'll gain real tools to help you feel more connected with your partner."
New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play
Eve Rodsky
You tell yourself it’s a busy season, that it’ll pass.
And if you’re honest, you’re tired. Tired of tiptoeing. Tired of feeling unseen. Tired of wondering if it’s supposed to feel this hard.
But lately, it feels like this is your normal.
"It can be difficult to change patterns in your relationship. Dr. Tracy shows us real stories of how couples heal old wounds and develop deeper, more meaningful connections. A must-read book for anyone in a relationship."
Clinical Psychologist and NYT bestselling author of The Conscious Parent
Dr. Shefali Tsabary
We step into relationships carrying our stories - our childhood patterns, past hurts, and trusted perceptions about love. We believe our partner will be the cure. Instead, challenges bring those old patterns front and center.
It’s not about the dishes, the kids, or how often you argue - those are just the surface issues.
It’s not because love is broken, it’s because you haven’t seen the blueprint you’re both working from. I Didn’t Sign Up for This invites you to examine that blueprint with compassion, and begin rewriting it.
That’s why hurtful loops repeat.
"Partnerships are tricky especially when you are parenting young kids. I Didn't Sign Up for This offers an approach for how you can stay connected to your partner and yourself as you navigate those early childhood years. Dr. Tracy weaves together real moments from couples therapy, honest stories from her own life, and direct teaching of coping skills so you can make meaningful change in your home."
Clinical Psychologist & New York Times bestselling author of Good Inside
Dr. Becky Kennedy
Within these pages, you’ll read stories from couples just like you—and yes, even mine and my husband’s own journey.
Through case studies, honest reflections, and tried-and-true therapeutic guidance, you’ll gain clarity on your own patterns, tools to hold hard conversations, and permission to pursue closeness without guilt.
This isn’t about getting it right. It’s about getting honest - and that’s what changes everything.
not theory,
but real-life transformation
not theory, but real-life transformation
Part memoir, part therapeutic film -
Healing isn’t charity.
It’s a radical act of love, for yourself and them. When you lean into the most real, broken parts of connection, you unlock your capacity to come back to each other—again and again.
"At a time when everyone is asking themselves questions about their relationships, Dr. Tracy's insights into couples and their everyday dilemmas reminds us that we are not alone in our struggles and there are actionable tools we can use to feel closer and more connected to our partners. Thank you, Dr. Tracy, for being a trustworthy and compassionate guide."
Clinical Psychologist & Faculty at Northwestern University
Alexandra Solomon, Ph.D.
"Does this tie back into the sausages for Emily and Matt 😂 I see a lot of myself in Emily. It has been very helpful."
"Just finished your book yesterday and it was fantastic."
"I’ve taken my book to read in the school pick-up line the last two days. I hope so much that I can get my husband to read this so maybe he can understand how I feel without hearing it from me. And I’ve already seen myself a few times and am going to work hard to improve myself 💖"
"I've already cried, and I love hearing your story so much! Thank you for sharing"
"I received it Friday and almost finished already! (while taking care of 2 under 2, haha) I'm digging into it after bedtime. The book I didn't know I REALLY needed in this season of life. Thank you."
"Thanks for your book. It's been very therapeutic and enlightening."
"I’ve taken my book to read in the school pick-up line the last two days. I hope so much that I can get my husband to read this so maybe he can understand how I feel without hearing it from me. And I’ve already seen myself a few times and am going to work hard to improve myself 💖"
"I've already cried, and I love hearing your story so much! Thank you for sharing"
"I received it Friday and almost finished already! (while taking care of 2 under 2, haha) I'm digging into it after bedtime. The book I didn't know I REALLY needed in this season of life. Thank you."
"Thanks for your book. It's been very therapeutic and enlightening."
"Does this tie back into the sausages for Emily and Matt 😂 I see a lot of myself in Emily. It has been very helpful."
"Just finished your book yesterday and it was fantastic."
Meet Dr. Tracy
Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and the founder of Be Connected. With nearly twenty years of hands-on experience, she helps people untangle relationship patterns using her own life as a reference. She’s built this book to land where therapy meets humanity - in the messy middle of everyday connection.
Based in Ottawa, she leads a mental health clinic, speaks widely, and shares grounded insight with thousands daily through media and social platforms. Dr. Tracy brings you evidence-based expertise and lived experience, because connection isn’t academic, it’s deeply personal.
Psychologist, wife, mom… real person in real relationships
When you're ready to go deeper, there’s a path forward
After reading, you’ll see a natural next step - whether it’s exploring a Be Connected workshop, taking a quick relationship quiz, or simply diving into tools you can use that night. Because understanding is helpful, but clarity without action is still stuck.
