It never surprises me when we reach that moment in therapy and I ask, “how is your self-care?” Some clients pause and don’t know what self-care is. “Put myself first? I don’t know how to do that.” Is one response. Others say, “that’s just a millennial thing.” and laugh. Some clients say “look, Tracy, I don’t have time for bubble baths, spa dates, and wine.” Ah, you see there are so many beliefs about what self-care means.